Our therapists are expertly trained in systemic, experiential, and attachment-based models of psychotherapy set within a Biblical worldview.
Restoring Broken Places
Your heart matters
Our hearts are broken. Don’t we know this? It doesn’t take us long to figure out that something has gone terribly wrong within human nature, within ourselves. We ache for things we don’t have. We lose sight of the things we do. We crave things we shouldn’t. We fight and strive and struggle, often with disastrous results. We are wounded and harmed along the way, even by well-intentioned people in our lives. Sometimes even by ourselves.
And yet our deep hearts are the most important things about us. “Above all else,” the Proverb warns us, “guard your heart…” And we don’t do this like a warden in a prison, putting our hearts on lockdown. We guard them as we would our greatest treasure. Something deeply precious. Why? “… because out of it flows the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23). If we are to live deeply, to love fully and come into the life we were meant to live, we must do so with our hearts intact, or else not at all.
The great news is that our hearts have mattered to God, and He has provided a way for us to get them back. “I have come,” He says, “to heal the brokenhearted” (Isaiah 61:1, Luke 4:18, Psalm 147:3). That is great news, dear friends. He intends to make our hearts whole again, and it is worth it to go through the process to heal and become wholehearted.
Whatever has affected you — pain and grief, the missteps or overt harms of others, entanglements with addictions, anger and fear, our therapists are experienced and trained to walk into these places with you to offer hope, healing, and life. We pursue the healing and restoration of your heart that is available for you so that you can get back on the road to living with more freedom and more life. It’s often difficult to see and a difficult terrain to navigate — which is why having the expert eyes and discerning and skilled counsel of a trusted therapist is often so important to go through this important process well.
Healing Broken Relationships
True intimacy is available
Our important relationships are one of the most significant aspects of our lives, from the cradle to the grave. We form deeply-held convictions about ourselves and about life from our experiences in our primary relationships — our worth, our sense of identity, and our ability to trust and relate well to others. And the people we know now — our spouses and children, our friends and family, our communities at work — we live them out based on what we’ve learned, and what we learn in them determines how we see ourselves and the world around us.
Relationships are sacred, but they are hard. Even the best ones get confusing. They require a tremendous amount of focus and intentionality on our part, and they can still break. We get hurt and hurt others, we get rejected or push our loved ones away, we get disappointed or scared.
Our greatest desire is to be known, as is our greatest fear. We move this way or that in a complicated dance to try to be seen and loved on the one hand, and to try to hide and feel safe on the other.
Regardless of whether we had a wonderful upbringing or one full of confusion and pain, we discover ways through life of getting what we need from others while trying to maintain peace and safety as well. We at times wonder if we are seen and accepted at all. Other times we are shocked to discover someone we love has given up on us all together.
There is a healthy way of seeing and understanding these “dances,” these relational dynamics. Our therapists have a frame of reference that allows for taking in the bigger picture and seeing the dynamics between you and the people you love, as well as seeing how your heart is affected by them and how your deepest-held view of yourself affects your relationships. We know how to jump in to help you set these relationships right again, and give you the map to take with you so you’re able to continue healing your relationships well beyond your time in counseling. (We love “teaching to fish,” rather than merely handing out plates of sea bass.)
True connection, where we are known and seen and where we lean into the world of the ones we love, is available. We can help discover and recover it for you in the relationships you treasure.
Finding Your Way
Navigating the path toward the life you prize
Modern life with its conveniences has also made it immensely more complicated. We are inundated daily with decisions we need to make and directions we need to take. People we love and our own lives are depending upon us to know how to navigate the terrain. Even dealing with ourselves can get quite challenging.
Often, we can feel like we are on the open ocean in a boat with no captain. We may have little idea of the course we need to take, or if in knowing the direction, we aren’t sure we can actually succeed. Our courage leaves us. We aren’t sure we can make it. Will we be okay? Will the people we love be okay? Will we have what it takes to take this course of action?
In our personal and our professional lives, we need to be able to set the course and vision for where we want to go and know the way to get there.
Perhaps it’s a raw spot within you that keeps getting triggered and you react in an outburst or by pulling away from others, and you know it needs addressed. Maybe it’s navigating your family through a difficult life transition. Or major career or financial decisions where you need to be able to weigh the options considerately.
The two things we need if we are to make wise decisions for ourselves and the ones we love are first, to know the way through and to have a larger picture of our lives and the situations we’re in; and two, to know ourselves well enough that we honor our own strengths and limitations.
We need the wise counsel of others who can help us open up to the responsibilities before us, explore the possibilities and pitfalls, discover what our hearts need and hope for and fear, and walk with us through. We must be able to see and live within our calling and the weight of the roles we play. We cannot go it alone.
We have two paths in life: growth with its wildness, or retreat with its isolation. You deserve to have growth and life.
Close Encounters
Leaning into your world
You might be someone who has a lot of people around you giving you their opinions for your life — and we need that for sure. But do you ever leave a conversation with someone offering their well-intentioned advice for you feeling like they just don’t quite understand? Or perhaps you just can’t seem to do the things they suggest to you? Or you might be someone who doesn’t have people saying much to you at all.
Whatever the case, it isn’t enough. We can have all the insight in the world and everyone’s perspective on what we should do, but no one is in our shoes, no one walks in our steps. Insight alone isn’t enough for change.
Often it can feel like we are in a pit and people above us (often people who care deeply for us) are telling us how to get out… but no one is in the dark with us to help us know where to place our feet. We scramble, but we just can’t seem to get the grip we need.
We need a trusted other who can be in the struggle with us, but who is safe enough to not get tangled up in the things that bind us.
That’s where we come in. We don’t merely tell you what you should be doing differently. We know the art of deep listening, to both your story as well as the “counsel of your heart” (Psalm 16:7) — its fears, needs, and longings. We want to connect with your view of yourself and your world and stay attuned to your experience. As we see not only what’s kept you stuck but also also see you, we can use the therapeutic relationship to help you get moving again.
We come alongside you and work close-in. Our therapists know how to use their close and safe relationship with you to help you see yourself (and your loved ones) better, to understand the things that keep you struggling, to confront your defenses and reaches for roots that keep breaking as you try to get out of the stuck place, and to discover the strength and beauty you that you offer to those in your world. These close therapeutic encounters are what help you make the changes you’re after.
We don’t just talk about what you should do differently; we exercise healthy attachment and perspective by practicing it with you in the here-and-now.
Let’s face the here and now and recover the life you are meant to live.
Live deep, keep heart
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